I started my new year finding out on New Year's Eve that the man I had dated for the past year was in engaged, married, annulled, and married again right under my nose in between our visits.

 I was devastated....even ending up in the emergency room  At first I wanted to hide from everyone.....feeling SO dumb that I, a confident woman, had been played.  Then, anger set in when finding out how many lies I was led to believe and the number or other women who had been played by the same man Now, I am looking ahead and turning my negative experience into positives!  

I Win..... I was able to leave easily and was not legally bound to the man I now know has been married at least 4 times if not more.  

I Win.... I was reminded of how much I love to travel. I got to see Dresden, Germany a beautiful part of the world that I probably wouldn't have ever visited twice if I hadn't met him  

I Win.....I got out safely. My heart & ego were hurt but he never physically hurt me like I now know he has done to other women when they discovered his truths.  I will now take the precautions I need to protect myself from him.

I Win....I was reminded of all the family & friends who love me, have my back and are here for me.  Who reached out to remind me that I am not alone.  He will never know what that feels like. He is a Narcissist and can only love himself.  For that I am very sad for him!

I Win.....I am going to share my story to help other women.  I am not going to tuck my tail and hide.  He may of hurt me but he didn't break me.  If anything he made me stronger and more passionate of my wanting to help other women.

I Win....I am going to follow my dream of driving across the USA teaching Red Hot & Ladylike classes along the way raising money to fight Domestic Violence.....more details soon!!

I know it will still take some time for me to be whole and trust again....but I WILL.  Everyday my heart is growing stronger, my fire is burning brighter and my passion to help other women is flowing greater!!  For all these reasons and more......


YOU LOSE and I WIN!!

In kicking off the new year I decided I wanted to start a blog....not sure what direction I want to go in but I do know I want to share how Red Hot & Ladylike has changed my life and is inspiring other women to find their sexy confidence too!

So let's start with why I started RHL in the first place.  In 2008, I was in a bad place...just getting out of an abusive marriage and not feeling beautiful or that I would ever be desired again.  A friend invited to get away and join her in Canada for some workshops.  Everyone knows dance is the best medicine. This is where I took my first burlesque class with JesseLee Santos!  He has worked with the Pussy Cat Dolls, Bruno Mars, Britney Spears just to name a few! His class was amazing!!  I left that class wanting every woman to feel as sexy as I did that day!

I knew I had found my calling!! I started with occasional workshops combining my technical dance background with my ideas of sexy and Red Hot & Ladylike was born!! Taking it to the next level I started the RHL company so that my dream of doing shows could become reality!  Finally 2 years later in 2010, my first RHL show "Fantasy" sold out at 250 people at Port City Music Hall, Portland, ME!! I then had the courage to open my studio in Fall of 2010!!

I opened my studio while still working as a full-time managing director for another studio plus artistic director of a non-profit youth dance company.. In the next steps of following my dreams.... I left the youth company after starting it & running for 12 years.  Change is constant, definitely not easy. In 2012, circumstances forced me to make a choice......I left the studio I had run faithfully for 23 years. This was a very difficult transition as I took a huge hit financially and even went thru a bit of depression. Slowly I picked up the pieces with the support of great friends!

Fast forward to 2016,  I have done over 30 successful shows, the studio is thriving plus I expanded to two companies adding a RHL touring company!! 

I believed in my dream.... My passion is now my full time job!!